Depressed Wife Finds Something Extremely Powerful From Her Husband When She Need It The Most
The list says:
1. she is my best friend?2. she never quits on herself or me?3. she gives me time to work on my crazy projects?4. she makes me laugh, everyday?5. she is gorgeous?6. she accepts the crazy person i am?7. shes the kindest person i know?8. shes got a beautiful singing voice?9. shes gone to a strip club with me?10. she has experienced severe tragedy yet is the most optimistic person about humanity i know?11. she has been fully supportive about my career choices and followed me each time?12. without realizing it, she makes me want to do more for her than i have ever wanted to do for anyone?13. shes done an amazing job at advancing her career path?14. small animals make her cry 15. she snorts when she laughs
Ive been juggling a LOT lately. Trying to do well at work. Just got married. Couldnt afford a wedding. Family is sparse. Falling out with friends, yaddadyadda. But, the thing is, amidst all the struggle, my husband has relentlessly tried to cheer me up. Ive not been the easiest person to deal with. In fact, sometimes Ive lost all hope and even taken my anger out on my new husband. But he somehow forgives me every time. I have a long journey ahead of me, and I know he probably realizes Im depressed. But he holds my hand, and he tries his best. Today when I came home from a trip to SF, I flopped onto my bed in tears. I looked to my left, and saw these words painted all across my mirror. I think he wanted me to remember how much he loves me. Because he knows how quickly I forget. He knows I struggle to see good in the world, and especially the good in myself. But here it is. A testament and gesture of his love. Damn, I needed it today
Im not saying mental illness is cured by nice words on a mirror. In fact, it takes professional care, love, empathy, sometimes even medication just to cope. Many people struggle with it mental illness more than we probably even realize. And instead of showing them hate or anger when they act out. Show them kindness and remind them things can and WILL get better. Everyone needs a little help sometimes. If that person cant be you see if you have any resources for therapy.
EDIT: The thing is
I am not too good or not good enough for my husband. We all have our down days. And sometimes we dont handle it well. BUT, we are partners. He is here for me when Im down. And I cherish that. And he has his down days, too. And I will be there to hold his hand, just like he holds mine. Life can be hard. The answer is never to mock, scoff, or belittle someone. Be kind. Be the best version of yourself. And be most of all- be patient.
Im still struggling, but Im glad I have my other half to help me make it through. It may just be a few words on my mirror, but Ill look at them when I wake up and know Im not alone. Ill know I have my bestfriend, my co-pilot in life to help guide me through.